Anal sex is a great experience. However, only if both partners understand that this sexual practice requires time, experience, relaxation, and trust.
An exciting conversation between our top escort Victoria and our long-standing client Hans, a bisexual single. Two experts in conversation.
Hans: Victoria, you have been working very successfully as an escort at Aurelie Secret Escort for many years. Let’s talk about your experiences with anal sex today.
Victoria: Gladly, that’s a really exciting topic.
Hans: What percentage of men want to have anal sex with you or your colleagues?
Victoria: Every second man expresses this desire, and the trend is rising.
But let me ask you a question, Hans. How many of your sexual partners actually want to have anal sex with you, as a bisexual man?
Hans: Surprisingly many, almost everyone, actually.
Victoria: Do you find it exciting every time?
Hans: Not in the past, but I do now. I had to gain a lot of experience and learn a lot about it first. Today, I only have anal sex with men and women who have experience and know exactly that anal sex has very special challenges. Different rules apply to anal sex than to vaginal or oral sex.
Only when both partners have mastered them does it become magnificent.
And anal sex should never be less than magnificent.
That’s why, for me, the rule for this practice is: keep your eyes open when choosing a partner.
Hans: How do you feel about anal sex with your clients, Victoria?
Victoria: It’s exactly as you say. If both know what they’re doing, if both like each other, if both have time, and both know that there’s no guarantee of hot anal sex with two strangers, it can be a great date.
I discuss this with my clients as well, and if anal sex isn’t suitable, we have plenty of other options for a fantastic evening.
Hans: And if a man wants to experience anal sex with you for the first time, what then?
Victoria: Then we discuss that too. And if he lets me guide him, if he has time and is relaxed, then we’ll probably have a great experience. But if he thinks anal sex is like vaginal sex, just tighter, then we’d rather stick to other great practices…
Victoria: Hans, you’re a man who has anal sex with both men and women. Which do you prefer?
Hans (laughs): Preferably both at the same time. Being taken anally while penetrating my partner vaginally is the greatest thing ever for me.
And I also love taking or being taken when it’s just the two of us.
But it’s just like you say, Victoria: there’s no guarantee of success. Trust and time are essential, and if one of those is missing, I’d rather not do it.
Victoria: I feel the same way. What do you mean by a lot of time, Hans?
Hans: If you don’t know each other yet, anal sex is definitely not something that can be done in two hours. I want to get to know each other, kiss, caress, finger, French kiss intensely, and much more.
Victoria: Describe what perfect anal sex looks like for you…
Hans: Okay, first me and then you. After extensive foreplay, I want to be touched on my anus. By the way, use plenty of lubricant. I want his or her finger to slide around my rosebud and play with it—and no, I don’t want the finger to penetrate yet.
I want to decide that myself. If I want to feel the finger inside me, I’ll take it and insert it a little bit myself.
And now, please, no in-and-out with the finger. My partner should just hold the finger still until I move slowly. I decide the pace and depth of penetration. I feel what I can tolerate. Even an experienced partner can find this difficult to sense. But this first phase is extremely important.
Victoria: You describe it perfectly. Please continue…
Hans: Actually, it always goes like this. Time, lubricant, time, lubricant, and I decide what happens.
Then I start looking forward to the moment when the dildo or cock penetrates me. I hold on to one thing or another, and again, my partner just has to hold on. I then move in such a way that it is pleasurable and comfortable.
Then I can enjoy the moment when we overcome the first sphincter muscle without any pain.
I like this slow widening. And yet it remains the same: just because my partner is now inside me, I don’t want to be fucked wildly.
What many people forget is the fact that there is a second sphincter muscle, and opening it takes a lot of time and sensitivity. If my partner has a short penis, he won’t get that far, but anything over twelve centimeters requires a little patience.
But then, when it feels perfect for me, I say the magic words: Fuck me now, however you want. And then I can enjoy it perfectly.
Hans: That was a long monologue, Victoria. Now you tell me…
Victoria: You described it perfectly.
Customers often have very high expectations and often lack time. That’s not a good combination. Like you, I think it’s very important to be able to control everything from anal foreplay to penetration to thrusting. Verbal communication alone is often not enough. The word “slow,” for example, leaves a lot of room for interpretation. Or “not so deep” is also a matter of opinion. And it may very well be that after 30 minutes, I realize it’s just not working. Then we just have to leave it at that for this time.
Hans: What are the biggest misconceptions and misunderstandings you encounter when having anal sex with clients?
We’ve already discussed the issue of time. For me and many of my colleagues, a lot of time means four or more hours. Dinner, drinks at the bar. Conversations, little displays of affection. We want and need to build trust and intimacy, and sometimes one date is not enough for that.
Men find it difficult to understand the difference between vaginal and anal sex.
They can’t know from their own experience (laughs). But maybe they should…
The anus is much more sensitive to pain, and only the woman knows what it feels like at that moment. And only when I am relaxed and full of desire does it become hot sex for him too.
Then there’s always the prejudice that women can stretch themselves out with an anal plug, which makes penetration faster.
But that’s nonsense. If the trust, time, and situation aren’t right, I can wear the anal plug for hours. Then I pull it out and everything is tight again. Anal plugs can perfectly complement anal sex, but they are not a panacea for faster penetration.
Hans: I totally agree with you. Do you like having your anus licked?
Victoria: Yes, I really like it, but not always. Actually, the same applies here as with anal intercourse.
Hans, do you like it when a woman takes you with a strap-on dildo?
Hans: Totally, I think it’s awesome. I really like watching her put on the dildo, when she takes it in her hand and wants to feel it. I think it’s hot when she lets me lick the dildo. I really like that.
But with a dildo, I pay even more attention to control. After all, the woman doesn’t feel anything through the dildo. But when she’s deep inside me and I let her control the pace and depth, I could go crazy with pleasure. I know of few things that I find hotter.
I can come without her or I touching each other – the orgasms are incredible.
And that’s one of the most important lessons I’ve learned from anal sex: since I know how it feels for me as a man to be taken anally, I can lead both men and women to perfect experiences of pleasure and share experiences that we’ve never had before.
And then there’s nothing left to argue against regular anal intercourse.
Victoria: As a man, can you tell me why you guys crave anal sex so much?
Hans: Yes, it’s actually quite simple.
The first few minutes, when the anus slowly expands, inviting you to merge with it, are incomparable and have nothing in common with the feeling of vaginal sex.
And then, of course, there’s the fact that anal sex still has something unconventional, something unspeakable about it.
And men are hunters—something that is difficult to obtain is all the more desirable. And for that, considerations and concerns are often pushed aside.
Victoria: You described that perfectly. And I completely agree with you.
But I am firmly convinced that good anal sex is a very special gift for both partners. And that’s how it should be treated!
