Just so we don’t misunderstand each other:
Fast, rough, hard sex can be terrific. Thrilling. Orgiastic. Incredibly hot.
But it’s fast. And then it’s over. Finished.
For many men, that’s it for minutes or even hours. But I would want more. Again and again. I don’t want to wait. I want to feel him hard inside me.
Delaying until the super orgasm
That’s why I love edging so much. It’s about not coming quickly, but as often as possible – but always just almost.
Orgasmic control is another name for edging, and that sums it up perfectly.
It’s about delaying the orgasm of both partners again and again, so that when they finally come, the sensation becomes an orgasmic storm.
I’ve always had the best orgasms of my life with edging, and I love being intimate with a man who knows how to control it.
Swelling hardness, wet arousal – and then,
STOP!
Just imagine meeting me or one of my colleagues. We go out for dinner, then get closer in a bar. You stroke the inside of my thighs, I put my hands on your swelling hardness. We end up in bed. Your fingers play with my clitoris, you lick it. Your fingers know how to make my nipples stand up. You’re hard, really hard.
It was a wonderful date that began with a great man in Dubai. He lives in Dubai, is very wealthy, and is a big fan of edging. That night, we had sex for more than four hours, in every way possible. Oral, anal, vaginal, with our tongues and lips. With our hands and eyes bound, with tenderness and roughness.
And neither of us came. We were in ecstasy, in another realm.
I was wet for four hours and ready to take him again and again, and he had an erection the whole time, except for a few hours. Sometimes harder, sometimes less hard, but always able to take me. We meet every three months to experience exactly this kind of sex. I love it because I can’t imagine a more intense encounter between two people.
And yes: we had a magnificent, seemingly endless orgasm when we allowed ourselves to come… I came at least three or four times in a row, and his happiness twitched wildly for minutes.
With each time, the sex becomes more intense.
Edging is like many things in life: the longer and more intensely you practice it, the better and easier it becomes. Take a man’s erection, for example. Normally, it lasts ten minutes, sometimes twenty, rarely an hour. How is it possible that with edging, the penis remains erect or swells again in seconds at any time? Arousal causes the genital vessels to fill with blood. In women, the vulva enlarges, the labia swell, as does the clitoris, and we become sensitive and moist. In men, it’s obvious to see.
But our heart rate also accelerates, our blood pressure rises, and our muscles tense up. In addition, our nerves go into a state of arousal – every right touch gets us going. However, even a small wrong touch can ruin the whole mood… But now, plenty of hormones are also being released. Dopamine and noradrenaline for sexual arousal, oxytocin and prolactin for the best orgasms.
After an orgasm, all these wonderful bodily reactions, which make us crave sex over and over again, disappear within a few minutes. But if we prevent orgasm, our body and brain remain in a permanent state of arousal. It may be stronger at times and weaker at others, but it is always there. And so, over time, the brief pause before orgasm builds up into such an intense cocktail that we experience indescribable feelings.
It sounds quite simple. And it is, if you know a few little tricks for controlling orgasms.
The simplest is the plateau method. This means that when one or both partners are approaching climax, lovemaking is stopped briefly. Or the intensity is reduced. Or you change positions, e.g., from doggy style to missionary. I’ve had the best experiences with this and can control my orgasm perfectly.
The squeeze method often helps my male partner. This involves applying very firm pressure to the base of the penis (where it emerges from the body) or the scrotum shortly before orgasm. This immediately dampens the reflex to ejaculate. Once you’ve tried this three or four times, this method works really well. A colleague of mine, Dalila, swears by breathing techniques. It’s simply a matter of consciously breathing in and out only four to six times per minute. This immediately lowers the body’s arousal level.
Because the opposite is true: the faster we breathe, the faster we come. And of course, no matter what kind of sex—vaginal, anal, or oral—it’s important to vary the intensity. The amazing thing is that all of these measures are actually quite simple, and we also benefit from them during normal sex. Men who frequently practice edging have harder and much longer erections (important if you’re into anal sex) and significantly more intense orgasms – even during a quickie. Men who practice edging can also climax again more quickly for a second or even third time.
It’s similar for us women. If we are experienced in edging, we can climax more quickly, and the climaxes are more intense and longer. I have now practiced edging with many men and am fascinated every time by how my lover’s and my own bodies react. It has made my sex life much hotter, more intense, and more exciting.
Give it a try and feel free to write to me about your experiences.
I wish you an exciting time!
EWA
